Perspective is e v e r y t h i n g. It can predetermine the success and the failures of any and every situation you will meet in your life. That depends on how positive that perspective is of course.
But sometimes it’s not easy.
We’re all humans, and we all make mistakes. Sometimes life can be frustrating and somehow it feels like it’s all your fault. So you begin to criticize yourself constantly. It becomes a cycle in your mind soon, because now ANY wrong thing you do will become your identity.
Yup. That’s you. The screw up. Back at it again with another screw up.
But guess what…
No matter how many times you’ve heard it before: Everyone screws up.
We all mess up!
I can’t even begin to count all of the times I’ve messed up, said something I wasn’t supposed to, made a situation awkward, and just made mistakes in general. While each and every time I fall short in an area I am tempted to sit there and wallow in the aftermath, I am reminded that no matter how many times I mess up- I am NOT my mistakes.
We all aren’t. No matter how many times we mess up- we are not the bad things we’ve done!
We’re human. We live, and we learn, and as long as we live we will continue to go through struggles of many kinds. Whether it be problems with your self-confidence, your seeming inability to do something right, or maybe being unforgiving to yourself about mistakes you’ve made in the past. It can be tiresome and hard but we are all 100% capable of defeating those things.
The only person who has ever lived on this planet, and lived a perfect life, is Jesus Christ. God in the flesh.
When those negative thoughts surface in your mind remember that the devil loves to make us feel like we ARE our mistakes. If we believe that we are our mistakes then 9 times out of 10, we won’t attempt to fix them. Instead we’ll cling to them.
Don’t let the devil hold you down by letting negative thoughts influence your life! Instead, be intentional about looking for the positive out of every situation.
Any loss is a lesson learned. Lessons learned are blessings in disguise because guess what?
They are merely pieces to the map leading you to the right destination.
The more you wallow in negative thinking, the less time you give yourself to enjoy the life that positive thinking gets you.
Below are just a few effective ways to end the negativity:
The only thing that can soothe me whenever my mind starts to become a war zone is prayer. Simply just telling God what’s on my mind and asking Him to bring me inner peace allows me to use my energy to cast whatever burdens I have on Him.
Afterwards, I don’t even have the energy to entertain negative thoughts.
When you’re on that negative mental train of thought, one of the best things to do is give it up to God.
Be careful for nothing, but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus
– Philippians 4:6-7
Ask Him to bring you peace and comfort and surely He will. He always does.
Start a gratitude journal
Journaling has always been a good release for me. It allows me to spend the energy I am using to overthink to actually right down my thoughts and in turn… sort them out.
Often we don’t plan to have negative thoughts. They pop up and we kind of find ourselves trapped in them. When that happens, jotting down a positive thing about whatever negative thought you are having allows you to shift your mental focus.
For example, you could be thinking, “I hate that I did this. I’m horrible.” Upon grabbing a gratitude journal, while staring at that blank page you’re forced to think ” What’s the good thing about this?”.
Surround yourself with the positive.
One of the goals I set to accomplish in 2017 was to redecorate my bedroom. It only has one window (which doesn’t face the sun) so it doesn’t receive a lot of natural day light, it’s not very spacious, and the color scheme was baby blue and black… which often made my room feel like a bat cave.
The room I typically do work in is my bedroom. Spending time alone, all by myself, doing work in a dark, small, cave like room didn’t necessarily aid me in times my brain took me on a negative down spiral… which tended to happen a lot in that space.
But alas, I was able to redecorate it completely within the first two months of the New Year and boy has it made a difference! It’s amazing what a fresh coat of white paint can do! Not to mention a cute new rug, and two picture frames displaying positive phrases.
Your surroundings are capable of playing a big part in your thinking patterns.
Maybe there is something about your surroundings that enables you in your negative thinking.
Now I’m not saying you should redecorate rooms when you have negative thoughts in them, but! I am saying that intentionally implementing positivity does help.
Whether it be a good quote you have hanging up somewhere, a podcast or YouTube video that offers good advice when it comes to staying positive, or maybe just talking to someone to get out of your head; all of it has something to do with adding more light to the dark, dingy bat cave negative thoughts make your life.